Winter Solstice Reflections: Letting Go of Fear and Setting Brave Intentions for the Year Ahead

It’s December 21st, the Winter Solstice, and I’m taking a moment to reflect on the experiences of 2025 as I prepare to write my intentions for the year ahead.

2025 was an extremely complicated year.

My ego wants to call it a bat-shit crazy year.

But my inner wisdom reminds me that everything I experienced was necessary for my growth and evolution.

There were many hard moments and a lot of pain. That pain forced me to finally see and embrace truths about myself that I had pushed aside for many years. It opened me to trust, deep love, and vulnerability. For that, I am deeply grateful.

It’s frustrating how often we allow things to spiral before we take action. We run from pain, even though moving through discomfort is the only path to real joy. As I reflect, I see how long I’ve been living with outdated stories about who I am, what I want, and what I’m capable of.

Tonight, I acknowledge those old patterns and begin replacing them with new affirmations as I move gently into the new year.

I’ve created several intentions, but this one is my favorite:

I take brave, aligned action even when I feel afraid.

I’ve wasted too many good ideas and possibilities believing I wasn’t good enough. I worried about what others would think. I asked myself, Who the fuck am I to do this, share this, or be this?

Turning 50 has brought a clarity and courage I’ve never felt before. It’s clear now - this is not a dress rehearsal. This moment is all we have.

I want to live boldly. I want to die without regrets. And even when I fail, I want to know that I tried.

These words may sound cliché to some, but if you allow yourself to truly feel the energy of this moment, you know the wisdom behind them is real.

So here’s to giving “no fucks” in the year ahead, to taking bold risks even when I’m scared. Just naming this intention fills me with excitement.

I encourage you to set whatever intention feels empowering for you.

And if you’d like support getting started, I’ve created a quick guide to help you begin.

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Sending you so much love and light on the longest night of the year as we celebrate the rebirth of the sun, and interconnectedly, the rebirth of yourself.

Use the Energy of the Winter Solstice December 21st to Set Your 2026 Intentions

Feeling stuck? This isn’t your sign to push—it's your sign to pause.

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✨ The Winter Solstice + New Moon isn’t asking you to hustle.It’s asking you to listen.

This is the longest night of the year—when the light pauses before returning.And it’s actually the most powerful time to set intentions… not January 1.

If you’re feeling stuck, tired, or unsure about 2025, you’re not behind.You’re in the in-between—and that’s where clarity begins.

I created a free Winter Solstice Intention Guide to help you reflect, release, and choose what comes next—without pressure.

Let’s step into 2025 with intention, not exhaustion.

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Messy and Worthy

Sunday. I sit in my comfy bed, afraid that getting up will mean facing the long list of chores I’ve ignored all week—laundry to be done, bathrooms to be cleaned, Halloween decorations waiting to be packed away. But what I really want to do is make a cup of coffee and sit outside, enjoying the morning quietly with the birds and trees as my companions.

Almost instantly, I criticize myself for wanting to rest when there’s so much to do and never enough time. I was raised to believe that worth is tied to work, that rest is a luxury for the rich, and that a woman’s value is reflected in the cleanliness of her home. My mom still can’t stand to see a messy house, and living with her again in midlife often feels like a fight between old, unhealthy programming and a newer, more compassionate mindset.

I’m messy. Life is messy. My house is messy. My children are messy. My dogs are messy. Everything around me is messy—and I’m learning to truly be okay with that, not just say that I am. There’s a difference. Being really okay with life’s mess means my body no longer tenses when I see laundry piled on the floor, because I know my worth isn’t tied to external order. It means that when my mom comments on the dog hair drifting across the floor, I take a deep breath and choose not to let those words awaken old feelings of shame and unworthiness.

My messy house isn’t proof of laziness or neglect—it’s evidence that six people live here, and five of us spend our weekdays working and studying outside the home. We pour ourselves out in the world, and when we come home, the mess is simply a reminder that we are living. If I prioritized a spotless, perfect home, I’d have to sacrifice connection—with my husband, my kids, and with myself. There just aren’t enough hours in the day for everything, and I choose connection over perfection.

Our mess is life itself—vibrant, imperfect, full.

So today, I choose rest and restoration over chores and shoulds. I choose joy over judgment. I’ll sip my coffee, feel the November sun on my skin, and let go of old patterns that no longer serve me. I will simply be and I truly hope I inspired you to do the same!