Any amount of self-doubt, no matter how small, will prevent you from realizing your full potential and manifesting your dreams. Self-doubt is unnecessary baggage you have agreed to carry on your life journey. People and experiences have added heavy items to this bag over time. Instead of putting it down because it's too heavy, you say, "Wait, hold on. I can rearrange what's inside my bag so I can fit more shit in here." Aren't you tired of being weighed down by self-doubt?



We are dreamers. We are creators. We are designed to escape the ordinary by imagining the extraordinary. Children aren't limited. They dream big. They dream about flying to the moon or singing for thousands of adoring fans. We all start in life believing we are limitless and that anything is possible. But, eventually, self-doubt creeps in and we allow our dreams to die as we age.


What caused you to stop believing that anything was possible? Was it the prickly, sometimes traumatic evolution from childhood to adulthood? Was it some form of abuse? Was it your parents who insisted you face reality and stop dreaming? Self-doubt is delivered to us in many ways through various experiences.


Reflecting and knowing when the seeds of self-doubt were planted will help relieve the regret and unworthiness you feel when you think of what could have been. You are still here, still living, still able to change the trajectory of your life. Stop beating yourself up about going off course. We have all taken detours. Accept that your detours were necessary for the evolution of your spirit.


I clearly remember the day I started carrying self-doubt. I was in the 11th grade attending a Worlds Affairs Luncheon at the Beverly Hills Hotel. An English teacher I didn't know well was our chaperone. This teacher asked me a series of questions and made comments that made me feel poor and different from the other luncheon guests. The microaggressions I experienced that afternoon made an impact.

Before this, I was on top of the world. I was full of confidence, excited about my future and potential career. I had high hopes of attending an elite college, and I knew I was securely on that road. This teacher, whose name I can't even remember today, changed the way I saw myself in relation to others. I was part of a minority group that wasn't destined to succeed, and people like her didn't really believe that I could compete with white, rich, male peers.


That day I felt-less-than. I felt unworthy of Beverly Hills. Even though I did get into an elite college, the microaggressions were consistent, and they kept on coming indirectly shaping my beliefs about myself. My baggage grew heavier and heavier. In my twenties, despite how heavy my bag was, I just kept on moving.


Eventually, the weight became too much to carry, and I stopped trying to walk. I convinced myself that I liked where I was. I had a career, a family. I was living better than my parents. "Yes," I told myself, "I do like the view from where I'm standing right now." And it was partly true. But your truth figures out a way to get out. It refuses to stay hidden long. My truth was that I had settled for a less-than-life because I didn't believe I could achieve my dream of writing and producing films and books. I was stuck. I couldn't move forward. Instead of screaming for help, I told myself I was lucky.


I created reasons to explain why my childhood dreams weren't meant for me. At times I would become depressed as my truth would scream so loudly it disturbed my peace. Self-doubt made me feel unworthy. I thought, "Who am I to dream this big?" It wasn't until I came across this quote from Marianne Williamson in my thirties that I decided to make a change.




"Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?"

I know I'm not alone. I have met and talked to so many people just like me that yearn for passion and fulfillment. You've carried self-doubt long enough. Stop hiding behind statements like, "I don't have enough time," or "My kids are my priority right now." You can have it all. You deserve to have it all. You deserve to take the adventure of a lifetime as you journey towards your dreams!


I know it's not easy to get going. You have carried this baggage for so long it feels very strange to be free of it. You may fear that you will be so light you may simply float away. I promise if you dare to drop that bag, you will begin to move in the path you were always meant to follow. Believe in yourself and see what the future holds for you.

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  • Jeanette Miura

We tend to get stuck on the idea that life happens to us, that we are powerless and have only limited control over the future. In reality, you are the creator of your life, every, single aspect of it. You are the one that determines what comes to you and when. You are the one that attracts the "right" or "wrong" people into your life. Having the awareness that you can create the life you want is the first step. Imagining what you want your life to look like is the second. Telling your story they way you wish it to be is next. Do you want a new job? Is there a profession you would like to pursue? Is there a place you would like to visit? Take the time to set clear goals. Write down your intentions. and speak them into the universe. Allow all that you desire to come to you when you believe you are the ultimate creator.


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  • Jeanette Miura

How are you living today?



When I created Fiery Living last year, I was a 46 year-old in the middle of a pandemic thinking, what do I do now? All of a sudden, I had all of this time. I wasn’t rushing to work or rushing to get the kids to school. I was sitting outside thinking and watching all these birds in my backyard I had never seen before. For the first time in years, I had time to be creative and play. I started remembering the person I was before. The person that had so many dreams and believed anything was possible. The person that never worried if there was enough money because living was simple back then. Like many adults, I traded fulfilling my potential for financial comfort, and I did this without processing or acknowledging that this was what was happening.


In my early twenties I spent a lot of time writing scripts. I had huge aspirations for my future. Coming from an underclass, immigrant, imposter syndrome mindset, I received the clear message that writing was only a dream. I was told by several trusted people in my life that I should focus on the pursuit of financial stability instead of my creative talent. Writing should be a hobby, not a career. I agreed with the naysayers and started down a dependable career path with a salary and an office. This path was fine, and I did enjoy most of it. Then the kids came and again, I made choices to keep money coming in. I made many unhealthy compromises in the name of my kids, my husband, and my job. I traded creativity for mundane stability.


Fast forward to 2016 when I woke up one day not feeling great. I had become accustomed to running on autopilot most of the time. I was a creature of habit and routine. I kept a to-do list and finished all the tasks and chores by their deadlines. From the outside looking in I was great. My family was great. Then my oldest son was working on an autobiographical book report and interviewed us. He first asked my husband, his father about his hobbies. James had many. He was a triathlete, a cyclist, a singer in several music bands. He was able to really engage with this question and it was impressive. When it was my turn to respond I didn’t have any hobbies to list. My spirit was not engaged in anything meaningful. I was the typical mom prioritizing being a mom. I was silently and slowly killing the women I once dreamt of becoming. After that interview I went to the garage and pulled out my writing box. It was filled with stories and scripts I had written decades ago. I sat for hours reading my work. Some of it was absolute trash, but some of it wasn’t bad, and some of it quite good. Then and there I decided to start writing again and return to filmmaking.





Jump to 2020 and I now can say that I have written a book that I hope to publish in 2022. I have started a blog that I LOVE. I have co-written and produced a film that has won two festival awards this year. I went from sitting on the couch to walking down the path of my dream self. I made the necessary mental shift to prioritize my mental well-being and spirit. I chose to again be creative and return to the dream I had deferred so long ago.


Fiery Living is about you finding your path, returning to your dreams. It’s about you choosing to regain something you may have lost or start something completely new that you have always wanted to try. It’s about setting time aside for yourself to do whatever you want for no reason other than sheer desire! It’s about living in a way that makes you feel happy and fulfilled. It’s about finding your joy and reclaiming ALL of your dreams.


RECLAIM YOUR DREAMS


Today I encourage you to take a moment to remember the person you were before life became complicated. The person you were before kids and jobs and adulting. Who were you then? What did you love about that person? What did you love to do? And then make a plan to reconnect with your dreams. For me writing was the way I reconnected with my dream self.


Let go of the numbness and GO GET IT!


If you are interested in joining this Fiery Living journey of reclaiming your dreams let’s talk. Send me an email (fierylivingme@gmail.com) and get the ball rolling! We’re here to encourage you along the way. Just remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with just one step, and the decision to take that step.

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