Happy 91st Birthday, Dad: What Forgiveness Taught Me About Love After Loss
Today my father would have turned 91. He died in 2021, and in the five years since, something unexpected has happened: my relationship with him has only gotten better. Not "better" in the way we usually mean it. There have been no new conversations, no apologies. But, somehow, we are closer now than we were for most of the years he was alive. This is the story of how that happened. A Complicated Kind of Love My father Ruben and I had a complicated relationship. He was equally
Jeanette Miura
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Empty Nest Syndrome: The Tears Aren't About the Drop-Off, They're About Who I Am Without It
Driving to work this morning, I was overwhelmed by all the feels about the looming college drop-off date for my baby. I told myself not to cry because I'm wearing mascara. Even now, as I type, I have to deliberately hold back the tears. What These Tears Are Really Telling Me What are these tears telling me, showing me? The obvious answer is that my youngest of three is about to be seven hours away from me at UC Santa Cruz. But that's too simple an answer for my brain to accep
Jeanette Miura
Aug 193 min read
75 Hard: What Really Happened to My Mind, Body, and Spirit
Last week I completed the 75 Hard challenge. Instead of feeling the relief I anticipated at the beginning of this journey, I am feeling a little sad about the ending of what turned out to be a transformative experience. I started this challenge with my husband James and my mentee Ashley on January 2nd. Ashley was the one who told us about 75 Hard last year, and my original thought was, "Wow, that's crazy," but I was intrigued. I wondered what would inspire a person to do this
Jeanette Miura
Mar 246 min read